Swapped naive dot product attention for flash attention

[usryokousha]

This pull request adds support for the Flash Attention mechanism to the MultiheadAttention module. Flash Attention is a recently proposed alternative to the conventional multi-head attention mechanism which reduces memory usage and improves training efficiency. The implementation in this pull request follows the paper "FlashAttention: Fast and Memory-Efficient Exact Attention with IO-Awareness" (https://arxiv.org/abs/2205.14135)

Changes Made:

• Replaced the conventional multi-head attention mechanism with the Flash
  Attention mechanism in the forward() method.
• Added support for the key_padding_mask argument to the F.scaled_dot_product_attention() function.
• Updated the incremental_state logic to work with the new tensor shapes introduced by Flash Attention.
• Applied the xpos method to both the q and k tensors in the forward() method.
  Replaced masked_fill with the additive mask to combine the attention mask and key padding mask.
  Please review and merge.

[usryokousha]

@microsoft-github-policy-service agree

[mranzinger]

I ran into some issues using this branch as-is, and created a pull request for it here: usryokousha#1

Please review and pull in, if applicable.

[usryokousha]

Please merge with master

[usryokousha]

Please merge with master